 Last night’s #Hacklive sex addiction panel discussion was equal parts fascinating, informative, weird, upsetting and entertaining. Two things are for sure: 1) sex education is not just for children. Adults need sex education more than kids do. It’s not like little Johnny and Patricia are...never mind, they are, but adults do need more sex education. 2) There are double standards galore in the world of sex.
One double standard that was mentioned is the gender differences in wanting sex. If a man wants too much sex, he is an addict and needs psychological help. Likewise, if a woman wants too much sex, she gets slut-shamed. Just like hell is hot and ice is cold, it is supposed to be that way. Despite what traditional feminists might tell you, men are still expected to be the fearless leaders of the world. I am all for woman empowerment, but for better or for worse, the male species is expected to be the aggressor. Especially when it comes to sex. Men put in all of the initial work in a potential relationship. The man has to approach the woman, initiate the conversation, keep that conversation moving, court the woman, pay for at least the first couple of outings and make the woman feel as comfortable as possible. For a lot of women, it’s a matter of yes or no. “Yes, let’s go have crazy, wild, sweaty, hot sex in the bathroom at Buffalo Wild Wings” or “No, you are a creep and you should permanently remove yourself from my air space”. According this person, sex is an exercise in self-control for women. So when a lady has an abnormal number of sexual encounters, like a fat person at a buffet, one could make the argument that she lacks a little self-control. For a guy, when he spends all of his time and money (yes, every guy pays for sex) on the chase, he might need some help. (Or maybe he is just irresponsible.) Life is full of double standards and contradictions, and it’s not fair, but who the hell said that life is supposed to be fair. Deal with it. Photo from zipmeme
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